Whether it’s your dirty little secret or you’re just playing a part in contributing to an open marriage, there are a few steps you should take to ensure you get your fun out of it.
Do
Be honest. It’s lies, whether emotional or relationship related, that can add all the messy complication to married dating.
Stay away from their business. The affair might be the main source of the thrill but asking questions about a spouse can dull those flames pretty quickly.
Be okay with what you get. Affairs are rarely just about sex, but don’t expect a relationship out of it. You might be fulfilling sexual, emotional, and self-esteem needs, but that doesn’t mean you’re ‘together.’ Have fun, keep it simple.
Don't
Start drama. Come into married dating with an open mind and no expectations.
Assume anything about your partner. They may be cheating on their spouse. They may be part of an open marriage. If you want to know, then ask them.
Create false expectations. Be clear what you’re after and don’t lead them on.